A fellow told me that I am the happiest person he has ever met. My husband is the happiest person I have ever met. We are a veritable roaming comedy team. But happiness and balance is something that we must work for every day. In this world of negativity and news stations we must protect ourselves, seek balance, and constantly be keepers of the light.
The first day’s lesson in the Setting Yourself Free series is Releasing.
Here is an exercise for you. Walk through your life, view it like an old home video. You will see some bad things happen but they will still move on to the next memory. When you get to a particularly hurtful thought, stop. Think of that person that you are still hurt from. They may be still in your life or they may be long gone from it. Now, step back from yourself and them. Pretend like you are an onlooker viewing the situation unbiased eyes. What do you see? The person that hurt you (or is still hurting your heart), do they have past issues? Can you look from a different, far off view and see them as a human and what they might be thinking (albeit not always sane or accurate?). By understanding where people are coming from and why they act or do the things they do we can often find a tiny bit of compassion for them (not excusing them) and can see that it was not you they were trying to hurt, but they are hurt themselves. Release that memory, that person, that hurt.
My friend, Dora, said to put them in a bubble and let them float away. Every time you feel a hurt from them coming up just put them in a pink bubble and let Creator handle them and that memory. My friend, Steve, used to tell me to put bad memories in a file cabinet. Every time you see yourself looking at that memory (even if it was from yesterday!) put it back in the file and close the door! Pull yourself back to the present.
I sometimes find myself thinking nonstop of what I would have said, what I want to say, but if you know that it will not change anything, then close that file drawer! We must consciously work for happiness every day and by releasing negativity and people that are sources of such we find ourselves smiling more.
Sometimes we are harder on ourselves than on others. The dog I had to take to the shelter twenty years ago, the cat I had to put to sleep, the thing I said that hurt someone’s feelings, the mistake I made when I was raising the kids, the list will go on and on because we are human. Now, if we do that same exercise and pull ourselves back from our physical self and look in, we can see why we did things, understand, learn, grow, and be a stronger person because we know now and we can be compassionate with ourselves. We must be kind to ourselves. We are just spirits inside these frames learning on this journey through life. Embrace it, release others and yourself from judgment and forgive all.
Now that you have done this exercise you will find it easier to walk out of the imaginary room of past and present hurts. You can send people off in pink bubbles with love. You can pat yourself on the back and be kind. We are all on a fabulous journey here. We need each other. We need ourselves to be strong. We need Creator. We are more light and happier and connected no matter what the circumstances if we can master RELEASE.
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This had to be one of your best posts .I can truly relate to it. I truly believe in the saying “Let go and let God”.
Indeed. We cannot take on any burdens. We must be light and joyous creatures. Sending you a virtual hug, my dear cousin!
Thanks for reminding me to be kind and patient with myself. Also my daughter Emma saw your picture and said “she’s beautiful!”(I just wanted to tell you)
Emma is so sweet! We are often harder on ourselves than others! Can’t wait to see your new farm! Call me so we can set up a time!
I just wish I had learned all of this sooner. Better now than never. God is good, and patient, and kind, and gracious, and forgiving and….Forgiveness is release, and love covers a multitude of sin. I think the hardest person to forgive is oneself. It is a gift from God if we only ask.
Happiness is something we have to actually strive for each day, a choice, and one that is much easier to attain if we release sadnesses and grudges. We have to do this each day!